Dating Advice Thread - Page 212

crazyD · 12-09-2010, 08:33 AM

I also reject the idea that everyone has to be happy alone to have a successful relationship. Being happy alone is probably preferable for most people, but many people have a good circle of friends they can rely on to keep them happy when they aren't in a relationship.

MagGnome · 12-09-2010, 11:21 AM

Jack got back to me today. He apologized for the delayed response and said that the "date night" sounds like fun.

Zero · 12-09-2010, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by MagGnome

Jack got back to me today. He apologized for the delayed response and said that the "date night" sounds like fun.

Remember Mags, just the tip, not balls deep.

Bone · 12-09-2010, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by MagGnome

Jack got back to me today. He apologized for the delayed response and said that the "date night" sounds like fun.

This is why it's important to remember that you are the Fonz until otherwise notified. It's too easy to freak out about the unknown and start reading into a situation. And what's Fonzie like?

evilgoodwin · 12-09-2010, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Bone

This is why it's important to remember that you are the Fonz until otherwise notified. It's too easy to freak out about the unknown and start reading into a situation. And what's Fonzie like?

He's cool?

Backseat Killer · 12-09-2010, 01:59 PM

Correctamundo.

astranoir · 12-09-2010, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Zero

Oh boy. This is fantastic advice, and I've actually seen that this is exactly what you do, Melissa. It's the reason you weren't single for all that time. Bravo, Farsight.

Yes, that was true. While not becoming a different person, I do feel like I've changed a lot in the past 3 1/2 years, though.

Ox · 12-09-2010, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Farsight

This is going to sound nuts (ha!), but... how about honesty?

Crazy, I know... and it may not be pleasant, but isn't what you'd hope for if your roles were reversed?

I tried this with the Feminist a while back. Ultimately, although we were honest with each other about what we wanted, we were dishonest with ourselves about how well we'd deal with the disconnect in our intentions. As a result, the conversation went well but the relationship went poorly.

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Originally Posted by Zero

Remember Mags, just the tip, not balls deep.

Don't be ridiculous. It's not gay if it's just the tip.

Re: you have to be happy with yourself: I don't entirely agree. I'm not a particularly satisfied person on several fronts, and one of them is my lack of a relationship. But I think what people are getting at is that you can't have overly-high expectations of what a relationship will do with your outlook on life. Pinning too much hope on any one lifestyle change -- a new job, a new city, a new car -- is often unrealistic, because there's a good chance you're dissatisfied with several aspects of your life. Getting a new job won't necessarily fix your life, but it's okay to say, "I am unhappy with my current job, and while I don't assume a new job will magically change everything, it is a prerequisite to being happy." Then again, I don't have a lot of credibility when it comes to ideas for being satisfied with one's lot in life.

MagGnome · 12-09-2010, 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Zero

Remember Mags, just the tip, not balls deep.

Good grief, I wish!

I haven't been "balls deep" in a guy in six months.

Sorry if that's TMI.

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Originally Posted by Bone

This is why it's important to remember that you are the Fonz until otherwise notified. It's too easy to freak out about the unknown and start reading into a situation. And what's Fonzie like?

So I need to start wearing shades and a leather jacket now?

I get your point though, and it's something I really need to take to heart. I actually achieve a lot of success when I'm confident.

Xerxes · 12-09-2010, 06:51 PM

I don't know why, but the phrase balls deep brings a smile to my face. Ok, I iknow why but still, comedians don't normally stick out like that. Then their is that Cleveland Jr song.

Generation ABXY · 12-09-2010, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by MagGnome

Good grief, I wish!

I haven't been "balls deep" in a guy in six months.

Sorry if that's TMI.

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So I need to start wearing shades and a leather jacket now?

Or just randomly sneak attack unsuspecting jukeboxes.

Farsight · 12-09-2010, 07:40 PM

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Originally Posted by crazyD

I also reject the idea that everyone has to be happy alone to have a successful relationship. Being happy alone is probably preferable for most people, but many people have a good circle of friends they can rely on to keep them happy when they aren't in a relationship.

What happens when one night all your friends are busy? Cry yourself to sleep? Call an ex you hate? Troll bars for a hook-up? That's a pretty desperate way to live your life.

People coming from a place of need can certainly get lucky and still find someone good for them. But the odds are poor, and may Vishnu help both of them if the relationship goes sour.

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Originally Posted by Ox

I tried this with the Feminist a while back. Ultimately, although we were honest with each other about what we wanted, we were dishonest with ourselves about how well we'd deal with the disconnect in our intentions. As a result, the conversation went well but the relationship went poorly.

Yes, and as I recall, many of us warned you that you were headed for trouble (Yay us!). Case in point:

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Originally Posted by Jack Bauer after you've stolen a dirty bomb

Ahem(bullshit!)ahem.

Your initial honesty was the correct move. Not recognizing her complete delusion was where things went wrong.

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Originally Posted by Ox

Don't be ridiculous. It's not gay if it's just the tip.

Who told you that?

I'm guessing a college roommate, camp counselor, priest, or drunken uncle.

Or MagGnome.

MagGnome · 12-09-2010, 08:31 PM

Please, I wouldn't fuck a lawyer. They're the ones that do the fucking.

Jack just texted me again and said that we should do that movie night sometime soon, with our mutual friend and another guy, to "make it a group thing." Nice...

pomeroy · 12-09-2010, 08:52 PM

Seems to me he's having to convince himself that you're just friends more than he has to convince you.

Oh, dramz.

Suave Peanut · 12-09-2010, 09:12 PM

--buh-leeted--

It just kind of sucks.

MagGnome · 12-09-2010, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by pomeroy

Seems to me he's having to convince himself that you're just friends more than he has to convince you.

Oh, dramz.

For realz. Friday night during our "talk" he mentioned a few times that he finds me attractive.

It seems to me like he's playing some mental game with himself. Like he has to compartmentalize everything instead of just going with how he actually feels.

Shieldmaiden · 12-09-2010, 09:18 PM

How long were you in your previous relationship for? Two weeks just seems like an incredibly short period of time between finishing a serious relationship and starting a new one.

Ox · 12-09-2010, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Farsight

Yes, and as I recall, many of us warned you that you were headed for trouble (Yay us!).

As I recall, this was my response.

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Who told you that?

Is it weird that this was a catchphrase at my office for years?

Zero · 12-09-2010, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by astranoir

Yes, that was true. While not becoming a different person, I do feel like I've changed a lot in the past 3 1/2 years, though.

Well, yeah. Just the fact that you're not in a new relationship already can attest to that. Now let's see how long that lasts....

MagGnome · 12-09-2010, 09:46 PM

Melissa's got me. She doesn't need any other men.

I'm heading out to have some beers with friends. That cute guy from the party I catered last Saturday is going to be there. Yippee!

12-09-2010, 06:51 PM	#4230
Xerxes ONE FUCKING BOX Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: HTX Posts: 20,213 Blog Entries: 8	I don't know why, but the phrase balls deep brings a smile to my face. Ok, I iknow why but still, comedians don't normally stick out like that. Then their is that Cleveland Jr song. __________________ 360: Xerxes PSN: ArmoredXerxes Bitch, please. I've gone through the alphabet with more girls than a kindergarten teacher. -Ox My life requires busting faggoty assed bitches like yourself in the fucking face. -Zeal the original Game Boy was the size of a VCR -pronounconnoun

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Suave Peanut don't let's start Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Greensboro, NC Posts: 5,732 Blog Entries: 6	--buh-leeted-- It just kind of sucks. __________________ • PSN : Steam : XBL • Last edited by Suave Peanut; 12-10-2010 at 08:56 AM.

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12-09-2010, 08:33 AM	#4221
crazyD Nothing to see here Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 5,533	I also reject the idea that everyone has to be happy alone to have a successful relationship. Being happy alone is probably preferable for most people, but many people have a good circle of friends they can rely on to keep them happy when they aren't in a relationship.

12-09-2010, 01:59 PM	#4226
Backseat Killer Colonist Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 346	Correctamundo.