Adam Blue
11-07-2008, 11:30 AM
This is a personal story that I find the need to tell people about. So, if you really don't want to hear it, feel free to move on. It could be like some weird love story maybe, but anyway...(names changed to protect the guilty)
As some of you may remember I was engaged to marry an ex-girlfriend of mine of 2 1/2 years. Well, she had to go back to Brazil for the summer and I was planning on going down there temporary in October until she got her school finished. I broke off the engagement because while she was in Brazil she was acting different. Distant, not caring, just all around not something I'd want from a fiancee. Right before I broke it off with her, her good friend that's also a Brazilian just got separated from her husband and needed a temporary place to stay. Problem is, I don't like this girl.
I knew her just about as long as I knew my ex, Cindy. And I immediately found this girl to be very attractive when Cindy introduced us. But Cindy always told me bad things about her. She just married to get to the US, just wants money to buy things, isn't a good Mother to her two kids, didn't want to work, and as soon as she hits two years of marriage she'll be divorcing so she can keep her citizenship. Cindy also told me that the marriage was bad anyway. He would hit her and not really show any love of any kind. Cindy's friend, Michelle, would then go out every night and come home 6-7am....because her husband didn't care what she did. So I knew how troubling these people were.
But since I was expected to go to Brazil, I could use the extra money, and being Brazilian, I know she could cook and clean. So I figured it would only benefit me for her to be here. I already had two roommates at my house, and Michelle said it was fine that we turn the front study into a temporary bedroom for her.
She moved in and after a few days I realized some things. Cindy pretty much lied to me about Michelle. Not only that, but one day Michelle tells me that I'm much different than Cindy told her about. Some were little things, and some were personal things. Michelle thought I was a terrible, lazy boyfriend to Cindy, and she was trying to get her to break up with me. And while I was with Cindy, she would always tell me how Michelle wanted to break us up...well now it makes sense. Michelle does want to work and go to school, but her husband wouldn't let her. She has even been with him for 5 years, so the marriage-divorce for greencard was just a lie. Now, she's working and trying to plan for school. Cindy also told people a very personal thing about Michelle that Michelle asked Cindy to keep to herself...and she didn't. So, Michelle felt betrayed.
Michelle also thought Cindy and I had an open relationship. Because over this summer, while engaged, Cindy had a boyfriend in Brazil. So, Cindy had lied to me even more. It was around this time that I knew I was done with Cindy. I broke up with Cindy, and she didn't care. You could say that having Michelle around was just the exchange of one girl to another, but it wasn't like that. Michelle and I just had a strong connection. She would cook for me all the time, and clean the entire house, which she said she just feels like taking care of me. We then find out we like each other.
Then there was some Cindy drama that came out of no where....she saw pictures of Michelle and I and then decided she wanted me back. This part is a whole other story, but let's just say Cindy's true colors were shown.
Michelle and I became in love with each other, and the feelings I had were stronger than they ever were with Cindy. We even made some pretty serious future plans for each other. She's even updating my house...she's been spending the week remodeling the kitchen. Now, I normally would never date a woman with a kid...even two, but I saw that as a quality in Michelle. I knew that once she got the house and kids, we would all be together. And it didn't bother me. Also note, the divorce isn't final until December, so I'm also helping her go through all that crap, which again, shows me how strong she is.
And then, just a week or two ago, we find out we're having a baby.
I think it's a crazy story, and there really is a lot more to it, but I just wanted to get the point out.
As some of you may remember I was engaged to marry an ex-girlfriend of mine of 2 1/2 years. Well, she had to go back to Brazil for the summer and I was planning on going down there temporary in October until she got her school finished. I broke off the engagement because while she was in Brazil she was acting different. Distant, not caring, just all around not something I'd want from a fiancee. Right before I broke it off with her, her good friend that's also a Brazilian just got separated from her husband and needed a temporary place to stay. Problem is, I don't like this girl.
I knew her just about as long as I knew my ex, Cindy. And I immediately found this girl to be very attractive when Cindy introduced us. But Cindy always told me bad things about her. She just married to get to the US, just wants money to buy things, isn't a good Mother to her two kids, didn't want to work, and as soon as she hits two years of marriage she'll be divorcing so she can keep her citizenship. Cindy also told me that the marriage was bad anyway. He would hit her and not really show any love of any kind. Cindy's friend, Michelle, would then go out every night and come home 6-7am....because her husband didn't care what she did. So I knew how troubling these people were.
But since I was expected to go to Brazil, I could use the extra money, and being Brazilian, I know she could cook and clean. So I figured it would only benefit me for her to be here. I already had two roommates at my house, and Michelle said it was fine that we turn the front study into a temporary bedroom for her.
She moved in and after a few days I realized some things. Cindy pretty much lied to me about Michelle. Not only that, but one day Michelle tells me that I'm much different than Cindy told her about. Some were little things, and some were personal things. Michelle thought I was a terrible, lazy boyfriend to Cindy, and she was trying to get her to break up with me. And while I was with Cindy, she would always tell me how Michelle wanted to break us up...well now it makes sense. Michelle does want to work and go to school, but her husband wouldn't let her. She has even been with him for 5 years, so the marriage-divorce for greencard was just a lie. Now, she's working and trying to plan for school. Cindy also told people a very personal thing about Michelle that Michelle asked Cindy to keep to herself...and she didn't. So, Michelle felt betrayed.
Michelle also thought Cindy and I had an open relationship. Because over this summer, while engaged, Cindy had a boyfriend in Brazil. So, Cindy had lied to me even more. It was around this time that I knew I was done with Cindy. I broke up with Cindy, and she didn't care. You could say that having Michelle around was just the exchange of one girl to another, but it wasn't like that. Michelle and I just had a strong connection. She would cook for me all the time, and clean the entire house, which she said she just feels like taking care of me. We then find out we like each other.
Then there was some Cindy drama that came out of no where....she saw pictures of Michelle and I and then decided she wanted me back. This part is a whole other story, but let's just say Cindy's true colors were shown.
Michelle and I became in love with each other, and the feelings I had were stronger than they ever were with Cindy. We even made some pretty serious future plans for each other. She's even updating my house...she's been spending the week remodeling the kitchen. Now, I normally would never date a woman with a kid...even two, but I saw that as a quality in Michelle. I knew that once she got the house and kids, we would all be together. And it didn't bother me. Also note, the divorce isn't final until December, so I'm also helping her go through all that crap, which again, shows me how strong she is.
And then, just a week or two ago, we find out we're having a baby.
I think it's a crazy story, and there really is a lot more to it, but I just wanted to get the point out.